tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2423483613129126051.post7391833007013519479..comments2023-10-19T09:57:32.592-07:00Comments on Sing your own lullaby: Joy and HappinessMariana Sofferhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13351209522681966230noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2423483613129126051.post-47321680415275861062009-04-20T21:45:00.000-07:002009-04-20T21:45:00.000-07:00It is not excactely that you have to be unaware to...It is not excactely that you have to be unaware to experiment joy.<br />What you have to get rid is the rigid separation that<br />exists between yourself and the reset of the world.<br />I agree, not necesarily generaly bad catalogued emotions,<br />are the oposit of the good ones, they are usually diffrent<br />sides of the same coin. <br /><br />The real enemy of happiness is not the obvious one "anger".<br />You have to reformulate the question and even the system to get you belive in<br />get a better idea about how emotions interact and work.<br /><br />Emotions are contagious by definition, is a sad person<br />enter a room with normal mood people, the sadness quickly<br />propagates to the rest of the group.<br /><br />Every emotion was originally developed by nature, to accomplish <br />some kind of adaptative function to their environment. For<br />example Shame, evolutionary purpose is to help social integration<br />by retraining people not to do things that are not acceptable.<br /><br />Please feel free to write as much as you want<br />MMariana Sofferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13351209522681966230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2423483613129126051.post-69741323802062318252009-04-20T19:32:00.000-07:002009-04-20T19:32:00.000-07:00Excellent postings here, Mariana. From my own expe...Excellent postings here, Mariana. From my own experience, I think your opening para is spot on. Given that happiness seems to follow from making a connection, I think that being unaware of oneself is the prerequisite for feeling joy. I don't think, however, that anger and fear are opposite to or necessarily destructive of happiness. If an angry person can connect with like minded angry people, I think happiness will result. Fear and anger are certainly contagious, and I have seen too many examples of groups of people gathering in race riots , laughing with great joy as they beat their targets into submission or recount their tales to the media with a certain level of ignorant pride. <br /><br />I would also argue that moral agents like ourselves can harness anger for positive effect. As we age, we tend to notice more reasons to get angry, and therefore have more reason to connect with society. We are mature enough to understand that we 'ought' to make a distinction between getting angry with individuals and getting angry with problems. I could go on. Thank you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2423483613129126051.post-2919288111131192022009-04-20T17:09:00.000-07:002009-04-20T17:09:00.000-07:00You can send me what you think by mail, feel free....You can send me what you think by mail, feel free. I would love to, and promise no one will ever no private stuff.Mariana Sofferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13351209522681966230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2423483613129126051.post-75630567039207888372009-04-19T19:13:00.000-07:002009-04-19T19:13:00.000-07:00hahaha... mmm everything i think is not posteable ...hahaha... mmm everything i think is not posteable :P<br />so... cheers! :)<br />ps/ i enjoy a lot the way u turn words and concepts :)justAnotherGeekgirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10375252775465131138noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2423483613129126051.post-22047155491838582622009-04-19T17:49:00.000-07:002009-04-19T17:49:00.000-07:00I guess you are considering happiness as something...I guess you are considering happiness as something that is related to wisdom. They should definitely be related.<br /><br />You made me think that mate is a happiness tool. <br /><br />Just kiding. ByeMariana Sofferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13351209522681966230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2423483613129126051.post-11377978380642342442009-04-18T17:59:00.000-07:002009-04-18T17:59:00.000-07:00thats so nice to spread happiness :) i think its f...thats so nice to spread happiness :) i think its far away ...or behind emotions >> happiness has nothing to do with emotions {emotions take you high and down}<br /><br />happiness is always there :)<br /><br />like in your post "comfortable, with a mate" hahaha i just read with a mate=(mate+bombilla+yerba) aaah we could say thats happiness too!<br /><br />and i am kidding....but i am not :)justAnotherGeekgirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10375252775465131138noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2423483613129126051.post-72998045659406449712009-04-17T08:55:00.000-07:002009-04-17T08:55:00.000-07:00P:Intresting question. One think I am sure of is t...P:Intresting question. One think I am sure of is that you have more resources to increase happiness as you age (not including being wiser). <br /><br />I do not know if you could say something like happiness comes more often or not. I would prefer the terms being a happier or sadder person.<br /><br />I think there is some truth in your first paragraph that I never thought about. Txs for this. I will keep thinking about this idea and let you know if I get somewhere.Mariana Sofferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13351209522681966230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2423483613129126051.post-70815781109695881682009-04-16T13:04:00.000-07:002009-04-16T13:04:00.000-07:00Does happiness come more often as you age - or is ...Does happiness come more often as you age - or is it, as you age, you attain the wisdom to recognize happiness more often? <br /><br />When I was a child, I never bothered to recognize when I was happy. Far more emphasis was places on those times when I was sad. (RE: Temper Tantrums, etc)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2423483613129126051.post-28828425515791172602009-04-16T05:32:00.000-07:002009-04-16T05:32:00.000-07:00You are right at a point I thought it was infinite...You are right at a point I thought it was infinite. But I still thought it was intresting to say a small part of it.<br /><br />Txs a lot<br />niece flowerMariana Sofferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13351209522681966230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2423483613129126051.post-40142380174341355372009-04-16T04:20:00.000-07:002009-04-16T04:20:00.000-07:00A very broad subject, Mariana.
Each paragraph cou...A very broad subject, Mariana.<br /><br />Each paragraph could have been a post unto itself. The discussions could be endless, and I think that's the way Mother Nature intended it to be. Keep on tackling, my friend.Uncle Treehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08469693535302107288noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2423483613129126051.post-22287462456164730442009-04-16T00:21:00.000-07:002009-04-16T00:21:00.000-07:00It gives me joy the fact that I made you think abo...It gives me joy the fact that I made you think about something you never thought before; that is one of the great things interdisciplinary work usually provides.<br />I think anxiety is probably the worst enemy of happiness, not sadnes. If you know how to let things go the suffering caused by sadness transforms itself and diminishses; but getting rid of anxiety is much harder, because as you said before, it is usually accompanied by blindness.Mariana Sofferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13351209522681966230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2423483613129126051.post-7208634548024910752009-04-15T23:03:00.000-07:002009-04-15T23:03:00.000-07:00I think people become blinded by little things tha...I think people become blinded by little things that cause anxiety and this slowly trains them to be unhappy until life teaches to let it all go. <br /><br />What you've said about happiness and the brain is giving me a lot to think about: "our brain circuits for happiness motivate us to accomplish things that enhance biological fitness." On the days I wake up and I smile and feel deliciously wonderful inside because I can hear the birds singing, and that makes a difference in how I approach the day.Emanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11308204574517001952noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2423483613129126051.post-15905134662400558512009-04-15T18:09:00.000-07:002009-04-15T18:09:00.000-07:00Antony: You always make people around you shine br...Antony: You always make people around you shine brighter just by being near them.(Sorry for being corny, I can't help it, to many pop songs)<br /><br />scribulus: I completely agree about the greatfullness, it is fundamental to happiness. I was about to write a paragraph about being greatful for what you got, but it didn't quite fit.Thanks for the quote, it is so true and beautiful.Mariana Sofferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13351209522681966230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2423483613129126051.post-19920477055025057662009-04-15T18:08:00.000-07:002009-04-15T18:08:00.000-07:00Antony: You always make people around you shine br...Antony: You always make people around you shine brighter just by being near them.(Sorry for being corny, I can't help it, to many pop songs)<br /><br />scribulus: I completely agree about the greatfullness, it is fundamental to happiness. I was about to write a paragraph about being greatful for what you got, but it didn't quite fit.Thanks for the quote, it is so true and beautiful.Mariana Sofferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13351209522681966230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2423483613129126051.post-47110718322476206642009-04-15T18:07:00.000-07:002009-04-15T18:07:00.000-07:00Antony: You always make people around you shine br...Antony: You always make people around you shine brighter just by being near them.(Sorry for being corny, I can't help it, to many pop songs)<br /><br />scribulus: I completely agree about the greatfullness, it is fundamental to happiness. I was about to write a paragraph about being greatful for what you got, but it didn't quite fit.Thanks for the quote, it is so true and beautiful.Mariana Sofferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13351209522681966230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2423483613129126051.post-23246887423034805872009-04-15T16:25:00.000-07:002009-04-15T16:25:00.000-07:00I think happiness gets comes easier with age and k...I think happiness gets comes easier with age and knowledge. We tend to realise there are things we cannot change, so we maske the most of them. <br /><br />We also become more grateful for each and every extra day without ill health or emotional torment. <br /><br />As Rudyard Kipling once said:<br /><br /> " If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster<br />And treat those two impostors just the same;"<br /><br />Then life isn't so bad is it?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2423483613129126051.post-29276628061605079602009-04-15T16:16:00.000-07:002009-04-15T16:16:00.000-07:00For the end of the article, I guess I can translat...For the end of the article, I guess I can translate that to -reflecting our wishes and broaden our limits on the people around us, not only thinking of them as mirrors, but as means to expand the reflections and shine even more-<br />Kisses for the nice lady within the sporty-well-brained girl !!!Antonio M. Becharahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06672987528339309009noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2423483613129126051.post-2907341903242756262009-04-15T02:54:00.000-07:002009-04-15T02:54:00.000-07:00Paul: Thanks for sharing your personal experience,...Paul: Thanks for sharing your personal experience, it is interesting that it confirms the theory.<br /><br />Stu: I am thinking about starting to meditate again myself, for me it is hard to have discipline. By the way did you know David Lynch has a foundation for meditating: http://www.davidlynchfoundation.org/<br />(I saw you wrote a great poem about one of his movies, which I happen to like a lot, dough my favourite is either blue velvet or a simple story, depending on my mood).Mariana Sofferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13351209522681966230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2423483613129126051.post-29569395449122960162009-04-15T02:07:00.000-07:002009-04-15T02:07:00.000-07:00"Happiness is an expansion, a connection; is conne..."Happiness is an expansion, a connection; is connecting with another person, with nature, with a situation. You feel joy when you're not really aware of yourself as distinct. The separateness that comes with all those other things like anger and fear, make you feel like you're a little isolated thing having an awful time."<br /><br />Yes, definitely. I've found that meditation helps with staying connected. It can certainly reduce anger and fear. It takes considerable discipline though, which is something I need to keep cultivating!Stuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17856424693319815534noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2423483613129126051.post-74641781763159618012009-04-15T01:49:00.000-07:002009-04-15T01:49:00.000-07:00I can only speak for myself but I am definitely ge...I can only speak for myself but I am definitely getting happier as I get older. I care less about silly things and I accept that what I do know will always be a tiny tiny fraction of the vast, eternal mass of things I won't ever know. It makes me happy.Paul Squireshttp://gingatao.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2423483613129126051.post-42650309394894741722009-04-15T01:34:00.000-07:002009-04-15T01:34:00.000-07:00I recently came accross your blog and have been re...I recently came accross your blog and have been reading along. I thought I would leave my first comment. I dont know what to say except that I have enjoyed reading. Nice blog. I will keep visiting this blog very often.<br /><br /><br />Ann<br /><br /><A HREF="http://externallaptop.net" REL="nofollow">http://externallaptop.net</A>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com